My dad once gave me some invaluable advice I will never forget. He said, “Before you get married, you better take a good hard look at the guy and make sure he’s the one.” Of course I haven’t been able to apply this piece of advice to my life as yet, but I still find it super relevant.
I know so many girls who are smart and beautiful people, who have been hurt deeply or cheated by boys (all stupid and childish). And when I see them so upset, I think those boys are such bastards to be unable to see the good thing in front of them. But whatever, those boys don’t deserve it.
I think girls get affected by boys too easily. I’m not just talking about just you, I’m a girl as well I know how you feel. Us girls we tend to be over-emotional, and I blame this on the fairytales we were read when we were young, they set such high standards for Prince Charmings and Happy Endings. These never seem to happen in real life.
And what about all the TV shows and idol dramas that target teenage-girl audiences. They make us so overly hopeful about love and relationships, no one cared to tell us about the ugly side. For example, Boy meets Girl. They get to know each other (over drinks, dinner, text messages…) and they fall in love and get together. But what TV failed to inform us, was how many frogs Girl had to kiss before she met Boy.
Yes, in our everyday lives, we encounter countless potential partners (well for some of us anyway). But who will emerge as The One? How do we know when to keep our guard up, and when to let it down? Will The One ever come? And sadly, is there even such a person as The One?
Spice Girls had a very serious message for all of us, when they sang “If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends”. I am a firm believer in that, because an outsider gets a clearer perspective of what your prospective One is like, as we are not blinded by love like you are. So, look for your friends, ask for their help, they are super important.
And as for yourself, I really don’t want to see my friends upset over boys and stuff. Hell, I don’t want to be upset over boys. So let’s all be the strong independent women we are, and keep our hearts guarded against the bad ones.
When to keep our guard up and when to let it down, remains a mystery. I shall do more research and let you know soon. Below I added some lyrics I feel are quite apt for this post. It’s from an oldie called “Buses & Trains” by Bachelor Girl. Toodle loo!
Why didn’t you tell me
Why didn’t you teach me a thing or two
You just let me go
Out into the World
You never thought to share what you knew
Why didn’t you warn me
Coz about boys is something I should have known
They’re like chocolate cake
I know they’re bad for me
But I just can’t leave them alone